Secret of being a perfect mother…!

By Rrajesh Kothhari

“Mother” word has own power. There are countless synonyms of the word “mother” like mom, mum, mummy, maa, mamma etc. The role of a mother is not just restricted to giving birth to a child but she also has other responsibilities towards her child. She gives warmth, support, guidance, care and unconditional love forever. For any child, it is worthwhile that, there is some kind of magic in a mother’s hug. It isolates the child from all the worries and stress. But, being a mother, it is very tough to understand child’s desire, nature and many more things. Indeed, psychologically, there is a natural connection between mother and her child. Although some areas are easy to recognize, some matters are tough to discover.

Nowadays, I observed that mothers have faced several issues because some of them could not find enough time to their little ones due to their professional work. Even more in this modern era, the requirement of the education system has become more complex. Eventually, the special attention of mothers is necessary while tackling the children, for an instance school-age and teenage. The reason is that the school going children are not so introspected and the lack of expression power to let others know about their thoughts, feelings and desires. As a result, young fertile minds react negatively to positive influences and positively to negative influences. Sometimes, parents choose the child’s career without knowing inherent quality and skill of their child and force their child for study and other activities, whether the child has interest in it or not.  Consequently, the child feels the pressure of studies and exams, ultimately the child fails to perform. However, the child could not get correct path or career and eventually struggle for success.

Understanding children and the manner in which their thoughts take shape is the key towards providing appropriate guidance to them. In this competitive world, every mother wants her child to be superior in every aspect. She leaves no stone unturned in the matter of her little ones when it comes to education, sports and extra-curricular activities. She tries to spend time with her children, making serious efforts towards understanding them and guiding them as they grow. Although, there are some aspects which still makes mothers puzzled. Am I right? The most common are, how they should help their kids to build up or improve interpersonal skills, understand some unspoken child issues, reasons behind sudden behavior change and many more. Sometimes, the situation becomes so vicious that children are unable to express themselves and mothers fail to identify.

To solve this issue, the basic logic is that mothers need to first understand the nature of the child and that is not so easy a task. I strongly believe that children’s handwriting analysis can play a pivotal role and enable them to gain valuable information about children which may then be put to good use for the upbringing and the career. Graphology is most simple and effective process because it does not involve any kind of questioning to children or putting them through any kind of psychological test which may make them feel uncomfortable. It is so easy that children are just encouraged to do some writing at a comfortable place in their natural surroundings. A single page of the child’s handwriting can tell the graphologist ample amount of information about the child’s nature, thinking pattern, inherent tendencies, personality, character, fears, frustrations etc, even without a personal encounter. Graphologist helps by making deductions from the child’s handwriting samples about the tendencies towards which the child is prone and in certain cases even indicate areas where he or she is experiencing trouble. For example, a child may be naturally shy or have low self-esteem. Furthermore, with help of a graphologist mothers can know the progress of their child as compared to other children of the same age; what their hidden talents and abilities are; and the current situation of mind. In case of selecting the career path, mothers can also get knowledge about which stream suits to their children depending upon the child’s ability, so they can be professionally successful in future. There have been several incidents over the past few years where students have committed suicide or have reacted violently. A graphologist can uncover with children, the severe problems they face today. Everything shows up in their handwriting such as sexual child abuse, depression, suicidal, homicidal, drug abuse, social and emotional problems, hostility, and criminality traits. A graphologists job is to identify the basic problem so that you as a mother can get the necessary help for your child before it is too late.

Having the child’s handwriting analyzed throws up a lot of information about the child which needs to be worked upon by the child’s mother. Special emphasis needs to be given to ironing out the negative traits and addition of positive traits. Here, the grapho-therapy is a boon. The grapho-therapist would be able to suggest various writing exercises depending on the child’s current handwriting which, if done regularly by the child would be beneficial. Grapho-therapy has been proven a stress buster for children. It helps them to overcome the pressure of studies and exams and become more focused and successful. Grapho-therapy can raise your child’s grades, confidence, self-esteem, improve positive skills, concentration and memory. It also helps aggressive, argumentative, shy and slow learner children. First, Graphology successfully identifies the roadblock of a child’s growth and then the grapho-therapy helps children and their mother to remove those barriers of adult-hood.

(The views expressed by the writer are personal.)

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